“If you want to kill a big dream, tell your big dream to a small minded person”
– Steve Harvey
So one of the things I have vowed to do this year is to be kind to myself – in all areas of my life – in all walks of life. I listen to @IAmSteveHarvey a lot. I admire him and his wife @IAmMarjorieHarvey immensely. I think how they carry themselves is classy yet 100% real. So I recently watched a clip of him giving a motivational talk to some young men who are part of the #SteveandMarjoryHarveyFoundation It is quite amazing what you can do if you set your mind to it (I’ll attach the link at the end so that you at least get through this blog and don’t get carried away by his story :-)) He talks about how as a child he couldn’t speak in public because he stuttered too much. How he grew up dirt poor. How he dropped out of college. How he’s on his third very happy marriage after two #TrueFails. How he’s lost ALL his money not once and not twice, How he’s lived in his car, and of course the most recent of all, the great #MissUniverse fiasco … #EpicFail
But then he goes on to talk about how he’s managed to pick himself up each time. How he’s learned from his mistakes. How his mother wouldn’t let him fail. How his wife is his biggest supporter (he says that on a separate clip when asked what the game changer was for him). He talks about how a teacher told him he could never be on TV because he was poor and stammered and didn’t know anyone like him on TV and nobody in his family had ever been on TV. But he goes on to say how his father told him to read that affirmation over and over and over again once in the morning and once in the evening. That was when he was six. He first got on TV at the age of 38. And he’s now 59 and finally making it and living the dream. He’s learned to invest. He’s learned to pick himself up. He’s learned to protect his family and provide by hustleing (he has 4 TV Shows and one radio show currently on air). He’s learned how to admit when he’s wrong (whether in public or in private) and fix it wherever possible (you’re not always going to be given the chance to fix everything; you fix what you can and you move on). But most importantly he’s learned to read people and surround himself with the right ones and cut off the wrong ones.
You see, according to Mr. Harvey, the worst mistake you can make is to give your dream to the wrong people – they will only crush it. And the best thing you can do for yourself is believe in yourself enough to be your own best friend and biggest supporter. Sometimes you will look up in the bleachers and only have a support system of one – the reflection looking back at you in the mirror. Some days will be harder than others. Nobody is going to have the same zeal and passion for your dream as you do. Not everybody is even going to think it’s possible. Here’s some pointers to all you dreamers out there:
- #bekind2yourself – drop the excess baggage and travel light. The right people will make the cut, the wrong people will never understand and the non-essentials won’t even notice.
- #bekind2yourself – learn when to speak, when to be quite and who to speak to.
- #bekind2yourself – forgive yourself and forgive others. it’s only a matter of time in this small small world we live in before someone will be kind and forgive you because you messed up.
- #bekind2yourself – don’t hate on another person’s dreams and stomp on their vision. Focus on you, and be the best you you could possibly be.
- #bekind2yourselff – say goodbye to the past. There’s nothing wise about holding onto the ghost of your lives past and wishing for them to come back to life. Nobody ever got anywhere walking backwards.
- #bekind2yourself – be happy. Life is too short not to be! Tomorrow is not guaranteed so don’t waste time worrying about it. Plan for it, prepare for it, work towards it, but you will never ever be able to live your tomorrow today so don’t let today slip away on the wings of a tomorrow that will soon be a yesterday.
- #bekind2yourself – love! There’s nothing as sad as getting to the end of the race and realizing that there is nobody there to celebrate you.
- And finally, #bekind2yourself – Dream. Eleanor Roosevelt said that “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams“. Nobody can dream the way you can and nobody can become that dream the way you can. If you can dream it, you can live it and if you can think it, you can become it!
Don’t forget to check out that link at http://www.facebook.com/SteveHarvey/videos/1657744107819781/?theater
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