The past couple of weeks I have watched the debate on social media regarding the supreme court ruling in the US as far as same sex marriage is concerned. I have watched hate spewed into the atmosphere in the name of either defending one’s rights or defending the name of God. I have watched malice and pure evil spewed from the mouths of otherwise normal, pleasant, beautiful human beings. I have been asked a couple of times what my stand is and for the most part I have been silent. Today I choose to speak.
I believe that marriage is between one man and one woman. I believe it because it is what I subscribe to according the the Christian Faith and according to the Bible which is really my rule book and my guide to navigating this thing called life. I believe that a relationship between a man and a man or a woman and a woman is a sin. I believe that a relationship between an adult and a child or a human and an animal is sin. I believe that a marriage between one man and many women or one woman and many men is a sin. I believe that sex outside of the confines of marriage is a sin. I believe that the act of self stimulation in the form of masturbation is a sin. That is what I believe.
Let me also say this: I am a sinner. I have sinned. I have fallen into sin. I have willingly walked the path of sin. I have struggled with sin. I have been confronted and fallen in the arena of sexual sin. I have walked the path of sin and as long as I am alive and living on this earth, I will continue to be confronted by sin or all kinds and I will inadvertently be forced to make a decision and defend that decision. I have walked in self-stigmatization and self-judgement because of my struggles with sin.
I have been saved by grace and still fallen into sin. I am no better than anyone out there. I am no more special for “all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God”.
I have no hatred towards another person who has fallen into sin. And I will not judge them. But I will air my thoughts and brave the charged atmosphere to say this: ALL HAVE SINNED but ALL HAVE THE CHOICE TO BE SAVED. Regardless of the sin you may have committed or I may have committed, there is a chance, an opportunity, to turn things around. I do not hate you or judge you just as I cannot hate myself or judge myself, but I speak against the sin according to the definition in the Bible and speak redemption according to the blood of the lamb, the blood of Jesus.
Spewing hatred, spewing poison, speaking from a place of judgement is not what I am about. I do not – repeat, I DO NOT hate you. At the expense of sounding typical, I do have people close to me, dear and near to me who are of the gay or lesbian persuasion. I do not agree with the lifestyle but I do not hate the person anymore than I could hate myself and my body and live.
I have one more thing to say: Stop the hate. Stop the violence. Stop the anger. Stop the malice. Stop the poison. There are people in your life or circles who are hurting and being hurt by your words and actions, or by the words and actions of other people towards them – regardless of your sexual persuasion. “This is my commandment, that you love one another, that your joy may be filled.” I have challenges with extremism / radicalism of any type because it leads to extreme / radical actions that lead to extreme / radical hurt.
I will reiterate: I believe that marriage is between one man and one woman – that is what I believe and what I abide by. But most of all I believe that Jesus died for me – to save me from my sins and redeem me from hell. And I believe that Jesus died for you too – to deliver you from your sins and redeem you from an eternity in hell. You have the chance today to turn things around despite what you may be struggling with. to bring this to Christ today, lay it at His feet and walk away once and for all. You will still be loved, you will still be now and always,
Beautiful – Empowered – Visionary
Because True Love Never Fails, it Wins Always!
1st Corinthians 13 [The Voice]
13 What if I speak in the most elegant languages of people or in the exotic languages of the heavenly messengers, but I live without love? Well then, anything I say is like the clanging of brass or a crashing cymbal. 2 What if I have the gift of prophecy, am blessed with knowledge and insight to all the mysteries, or what if my faith is strong enough to scoop a mountain from its bedrock, yet I live without love? If so, I am nothing. 3 I could give all that I have to feed the poor, I could surrender my body to be burned as a martyr, but if I do not live in love, I gain nothing by my selfless acts.
4 Love is patient; love is kind. Love isn’t envious, doesn’t boast, brag, or strut about. There’s no arrogance in love; 5 it’s never rude, crude, or indecent—it’s not self-absorbed. Love isn’t easily upset. Love doesn’t tally wrongs 6 or celebrate injustice; but truth—yes, truth—is love’s delight! 7 Love puts up with anything and everything that comes along; it trusts, hopes, and endures no matter what. 8 Love will never become obsolete. Now as for the prophetic gifts, they will not last; unknown languages will become silent, and the gift of knowledge will no longer be needed. 9 Gifts of knowledge and prophecy are partial at best, at least for now, 10 but when the perfection and fullness of God’s kingdom arrive, all the parts will end. 11 When I was a child, I spoke, thought, and reasoned in childlike ways as we all do. But when I became a man, I left my childish ways behind. 12 For now, we can only see a dim and blurry picture of things, as when we stare into polished metal. I realize that everything I know is only part of the big picture. But one day, when Jesus arrives, we will see clearly, face-to-face. In that day, I will fully know just as I have been wholly known by God. 13 But now faith, hope, and love remain; these threevirtues must characterize our lives. The greatest of these is love.