The other day I was driving to work and somewhere close to my home I saw a crown gathering. I slowed down – just long enough to check that my windows were rolled up and doors were locked (after all, This Is Africa and a crowd is mostly a negative thing) and then hurriedly drove past. As I came to a four-way stop, I glanced in my rear view mirror to see a woman being pummelled by the man she was with. The crowd was hushed and transfixed – so was I. But I drove on and went about my business. Concerned from the safe confines of my life, but disturbed by my ability to drive on by. What was I supposed to do? How was I supposed to stop him? What chance did I stand? – When the real question I should have been asking is – If I don’t stop, What chance does SHE stand? I drove away and did not stop. I am part of the problem. I offered no solution, no safety, no haven, no security. I was ashamed then and I am ashamed now. So today I chose to stand up against violence. I don’t have the statistics to tell you how many women are abused or killed every day. I don’t think anyone does. Too many women cannot speak and do not have a voice. IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO WALK AWAY – UNLESS YOU CAN NO LONGER WALK. No means no and abuse is abuse.
Get help. Find a safe place. Seek counselling.
You are good enough. You are beautiful enough. You are intelligent enough. You are lovable enough. Somebody else will come along. You will live through it.
Today I feel led to speak to a woman out there who is in an abusive relationship. He controls you; with fear of the mind or fear of a fist. He has separated you from your family and friends. He has made you feel like crap – nobody will ever love you because you don’t deserve you. He is constantly unfaithful to you and always has a reason and mostly the reason is you – it’s always your fault. It’s never too late to start over. It’s never too late to walk away. It’s never too late to stop. It’s never too late to turn over a new leaf. Today I came to tell you – there is hope. It’s never too late to walk away. Abuse is abuse – there’s a very thin line between control and the grave. Get help now. Go to a safe place. Seek counselling. Share this with as many women as you can
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